9 Intimacies 7:20 PM

The word, "intimate" has long been defined by the act of intercourse, and while romance and sex are indeed an important part of intimacy, they are only a very small portion of it. The actual definition of intimacy should read, "a warm relationship between lovers that is characterized by a relaxed informality, deep understanding, vulnerability, shared empathy, and the need to be close. Other definitions may also choose to include the word 'soulmate' as a means to describe the extent of such a connection.

What is intimacy, exactly? Here's some relationship advice in the form of nine pieces of the puzzle, which, when combined, comprise the truest form of intimacy a couple could ever achieve:

Emotional Connection- To connect emotionally, a couple must know how to communicate effectively, expressing everything from their goals and dreams to their fears and regrets. Such communication should include both verbal and non-verbal (hugging, cuddling, touching) cues of expression.

Spiritual Connection- A spiritual connection between partners is considered a sacred bond between body and soul. Each partner involved is aware of who they are, who their partner is, and the sacred life force which has been created by their union.

Relaxed Informality- Intimacy is not only reserved for lovers, but also our closest friends and family. These are the people we feel relaxed around, and with whom we can be ourselves. If you are hiding your true self out of fear of not being loved for who you are, you have already sabotaged your chance of intimacy.

Deep Understanding- We are never afraid to tell those who we are intimate with, how we really feel. This is because we know they will understand where we are coming from, taking a position of understanding, rather than defense.

Trust- When a person gives themselves to someone, they are putting their trust in that person not to hurt them. While this is a risk, it's also the only way to truly open yourself to the possibility of true love, intimacy, and the ability to heal all past, failed attempts at love.

Familiarity- The intimate couple should feel like that favorite pair of jeans in your closet that are so worn from use, they could almost disintegrate. They fit perfectly, look great, feel fantastic, and you could find them blindfolded in a room full of other jeans if you had to.

Vulnerability- Intimacy is about allowing our partner a front row seat to the story of our lives. It is an unspoken promise that you will remain open to your partner, sharing your most intimate, closely guarded secrets, and in return, they will hold these secrets as dear as their own.

Shared Empathy- This is a couples ability to know each other so well, they almost sense how each other feels. A partner can walk into a room, and without even saying a word, the other will know if something is wrong. This maybe as close to a true soulmate as most of us will ever come.

The Need to be Close- The need for a couple to be together all the time can be characterized by an unhealthy distrust in the relationship. In this case, however, it's not that they are afraid to be apart out of fear of losing each other, but out of the desire to share as much of their life together as possible.

The next time you and your partner discuss intimacy, don't forget that its origins go far deeper than sex. It is unfortunate that many couples fail to understand that true intimacy is a slowly developed process, intertwined by the mental, social, emotional, spiritual, and physical. Those who know this kind of intimacy, know pleasure far beyond the fleeting moments of passion between the sheets!

Leavin on a jet plane~ 11:16 PM

hik hik...I cant say that I am with the song's mood. Actually I quite happy since I will starting my new year wit a new life, new environment, along wit new hopes, dreamz, etc. Everything will be so new that I cannot imagine how nervous I am wit all of this changes.

I will leave Setapak, my frens, and all the goodness of being a student of KLMU and resident of Apartment Dahlia by this week. (InsyaAllah).

Along wit my dearest one, I hope to succeed my career life and now we have a target to meet. We will get ready for our next step and all steps after that. I want to stay tough and I'm pretty sure I will achieve what we have target for. (InsyaAllah)

Again, I juz love my life so much. All the obstacles, miracles happen in beautiful way. Thank Allah. I always do. Alhamdulillah...

.::Life is too Beautiful to trap in Craps::.

4 in da morning- da remix 1:51 AM

she look so hungry at 4 a.m- sahur pya pasal. hehe

we r at some rare place (i dun want to expose much) after have to run-away at dat nite. something terrible happen and we have to leave home after midnite

sory ati, have to expose u. dun have idea lately. heh!

da pic dat i promise 5:17 AM

akak jual kain

mak to pick souvenir

inside pasar Siti Khadijah, Kota Bharu

front of main palace

dataran Kota Bharu

lunch time wit family angkatku

homestay hall

front of kubah As-Sakharah, Palestine

my beloved mum

unique mosque

crystal mosque

crystal mosque entrance

Taman Tamadun Islam's monument park are the world first theme park that acknowledge Islamic architecture. The monument park is a showcase of Islamic Civilization in the form of architectural wonder. There are 21 scaled replicas of historic Islamic monuments from 20 country located on the Monument Park. The main attraction in the monument park are National Mosque (Malaysia), Dome of The Rock (Palestine), Masjidil Haram (Arab Saudi), Al-Hambra Citadel (Spain) and Taj Mahal (India).

There are also others replica such as Kalyan Minaret (Uzbekistan), Samarra Mosque(Iraq), Mohd Ali Mosque (Egypt), Qairawan Mosque (Tunisia), Allepo Citadel (Syria) and Kul Syarif Mosque (Russia).

  • National Mosque, Malaysia
  • Kudus Minar, Indonesia
  • Pattani, Thailand
  • Sultan Omar Ali Saifudin Mosque, Brunei
  • Taj Mahal, India
  • Badshahi, Paksitan
  • Kubbah As-Sakharah, Palestine
  • Samarra, Iraq
  • Sheikh Lutfallah, Iran
  • Abu Nasr, Afghanistan
  • Al-Haram, Mecca
  • Aleppo Citadel, Syiria
  • Mohd Ali, Egypt
  • Prophet, Medina
  • Suleyman, Turkey
  • Qairawan, Tunisia
  • Al-Hambra, Spain
  • Kalyan Minaret, Uzbekistan
  • Agadez, Niger
  • Kul Sharif, Russia
  • Xian, China

Confession of a Shopaholic 10:26 PM

As to continue the last post, I’ve done my shopping at Kelantan and Terengganu within last weekend. I was so damn tired. Not enuf sleep+keep walking all day long+enormous plastic of shopping to carried. I even still feel the effect until now. Hehe

I was traveling from KL-Ipoh at the Friday noon and arrived at 4 p.m. then the journey continues on 10 p.m from Ipoh-Rantau Panjang (Kelantan) and I arrived on 6 a.m on next morning of Saturday. After solat Subuh and breakfast, we started to shopped from on to another shops there. Because of it’s a border of Malaysia-Thailand (Golok), the price is quite cheap and my mum keeps taking almost everything from the shops, without me of controlling her.

Then we off to Kota Bharu, Kelantan on 12 p.m. at KB, I’ve started to control her money flow because she already spent almost RM400 at Rantau Panjang and now she planned to buy material to be made as baju kurung for our raya. As I can see there, 1 material almost achieve RM 200-400 and she wants to spent at least 1K there.

By end of journey, I go to Kuala Terengganu (Terengganu), Taman Tamadun Islam (Terengganu), and Bukit Bunga (Kelantan) and spent almost 3K by that weekend. I dunno if I wasn’t there, how many she will spent there. Its unpredictable.

I only arrived Ipoh on 1 a.m. on Monday and must taking train to KL Sentral on 9 a.m. I think that I can make it at least Mr. Atif class on the Monday afternoon but when I arrived KL on 1p.m., I was so tired and sleepy. So I skipped the class. So sorry sir….hehe

oh, ya. i will enter the pics later. huhu. i'm not uploading it to pc yet

the Fearless Child 1:11 AM

i dun have time and tools enuf to manage my blog, so this is wat i can do meanwhile:

Bleach 368: The Fearless Child

like always, while i have no idea to write, Bleach updates will be my favourite. hehe.

2. i will be off to Kelantan tomoro wit my mum. she wants to shopping for this raya/ aidilfitri (its about more than a month from now). well since there are nobody wants to accompany her, i will be the one who should. hmm....

3. but meanwhile, i always have problem with my health. i keep having flu, cough, etc (thank god its not H1N1). so i worry that i cannot make it for my mum. i already have plan to hide it if i really not to well, but i'm afraid she will notice it. a mother u know....she always know my condition no matter how hard i try to hide it.

so the conclusion is: I WILL BE STRONG FOR MY MOTHER!...for her sake..uhuk2...

i dun need a man~~at least for now 12:03 AM

I see you looking at me
Like I got something for you
And the way that you stare
Don't you dare
'Cause I'm not about to
Just give it on up to you
'Cause there are some things I won't do
And I'm not afraid to tell you
I don't ever want to leave you confused

The more you try
The less I bite
And I don't have to think it through
You know if I'm into you

I don't need a man to make it happen
I get off being free
I don't need a man to make me feel good
I get up do my thing
I don't need a ring around my finger
To make me feel complete
So let me break it down
I can get off when you ain't around

You know I got my own life
And I bought everything that's in it
So if you want to be with me
It ain't all about the bling you bringing
I want a love that's for real
And without that then no deal
And baby I don't need a hand
If it only wants to grab one thing

The more you try
The less I bite
And I don't have to think it through
You know if I'm feeling you