The word, "intimate" has long been defined by the act of intercourse, and while romance and sex are indeed an important part of intimacy, they are only a very small portion of it. The actual definition of intimacy should read, "a warm relationship between lovers that is characterized by a relaxed informality, deep understanding, vulnerability, shared empathy, and the need to be close. Other definitions may also choose to include the word 'soulmate' as a means to describe the extent of such a connection.

What is intimacy, exactly? Here's some relationship advice in the form of nine pieces of the puzzle, which, when combined, comprise the truest form of intimacy a couple could ever achieve:

Emotional Connection- To connect emotionally, a couple must know how to communicate effectively, expressing everything from their goals and dreams to their fears and regrets. Such communication should include both verbal and non-verbal (hugging, cuddling, touching) cues of expression.

Spiritual Connection- A spiritual connection between partners is considered a sacred bond between body and soul. Each partner involved is aware of who they are, who their partner is, and the sacred life force which has been created by their union.

Relaxed Informality- Intimacy is not only reserved for lovers, but also our closest friends and family. These are the people we feel relaxed around, and with whom we can be ourselves. If you are hiding your true self out of fear of not being loved for who you are, you have already sabotaged your chance of intimacy.

Deep Understanding- We are never afraid to tell those who we are intimate with, how we really feel. This is because we know they will understand where we are coming from, taking a position of understanding, rather than defense.

Trust- When a person gives themselves to someone, they are putting their trust in that person not to hurt them. While this is a risk, it's also the only way to truly open yourself to the possibility of true love, intimacy, and the ability to heal all past, failed attempts at love.

Familiarity- The intimate couple should feel like that favorite pair of jeans in your closet that are so worn from use, they could almost disintegrate. They fit perfectly, look great, feel fantastic, and you could find them blindfolded in a room full of other jeans if you had to.

Vulnerability- Intimacy is about allowing our partner a front row seat to the story of our lives. It is an unspoken promise that you will remain open to your partner, sharing your most intimate, closely guarded secrets, and in return, they will hold these secrets as dear as their own.

Shared Empathy- This is a couples ability to know each other so well, they almost sense how each other feels. A partner can walk into a room, and without even saying a word, the other will know if something is wrong. This maybe as close to a true soulmate as most of us will ever come.

The Need to be Close- The need for a couple to be together all the time can be characterized by an unhealthy distrust in the relationship. In this case, however, it's not that they are afraid to be apart out of fear of losing each other, but out of the desire to share as much of their life together as possible.

The next time you and your partner discuss intimacy, don't forget that its origins go far deeper than sex. It is unfortunate that many couples fail to understand that true intimacy is a slowly developed process, intertwined by the mental, social, emotional, spiritual, and physical. Those who know this kind of intimacy, know pleasure far beyond the fleeting moments of passion between the sheets!

hik hik...I cant say that I am with the song's mood. Actually I quite happy since I will starting my new year wit a new life, new environment, along wit new hopes, dreamz, etc. Everything will be so new that I cannot imagine how nervous I am wit all of this changes.

As to continue the last post, I’ve done my shopping at Kelantan and Terengganu within last weekend. I was so damn tired. Not enuf sleep+keep walking all day long+enormous plastic of shopping to carried. I even still feel the effect until now. Hehe

I was traveling from KL-Ipoh at the Friday noon and arrived at 4 p.m. then the journey continues on 10 p.m from Ipoh-Rantau Panjang (Kelantan) and I arrived on 6 a.m on next morning of Saturday. After solat Subuh and breakfast, we started to shopped from on to another shops there. Because of it’s a border of Malaysia-Thailand (Golok), the price is quite cheap and my mum keeps taking almost everything from the shops, without me of controlling her.

Then we off to Kota Bharu, Kelantan on 12 p.m. at KB, I’ve started to control her money flow because she already spent almost RM400 at Rantau Panjang and now she planned to buy material to be made as baju kurung for our raya. As I can see there, 1 material almost achieve RM 200-400 and she wants to spent at least 1K there.

By end of journey, I go to Kuala Terengganu (Terengganu), Taman Tamadun Islam (Terengganu), and Bukit Bunga (Kelantan) and spent almost 3K by that weekend. I dunno if I wasn’t there, how many she will spent there. Its unpredictable.

I only arrived Ipoh on 1 a.m. on Monday and must taking train to KL Sentral on 9 a.m. I think that I can make it at least Mr. Atif class on the Monday afternoon but when I arrived KL on 1p.m., I was so tired and sleepy. So I skipped the class. So sorry sir….hehe

oh, ya. i will enter the pics later. huhu. i'm not uploading it to pc yet

i dun have time and tools enuf to manage my blog, so this is wat i can do meanwhile:

uhuk2...

Oh, Oh
Im not missing you
Been through just about everything that I could go through
When it comes to relationships
Dont know what I was missing or why I aint listen
When I told myself that was it
Now here I go, hurt again
Cause of my curiousity
Now that its over
What else could it be he just had to cheat

I made a promise never to settle
Why didnt I keep it?
Cause I hated the heartbreak
Crying and cheating, the fooling around

[Chorus]
(But) Im not missing you
Im not going through the motions
Waiting and hoping you call me
Im not missing you
You might have had me open
But I must be going because
I got life to do
I know Im usually hanging on
I used to hate to see you gone
But this time its different
I dont even feel the distance
Im not missing
Im not missing you

Its a shame in a way cause
I feel that I may not ever find the right one for me
Did I leave him, if he right in front of my face oh
Will my true love ever be?
Why would I go on a search again
When I know what the end will be
What good is love when it keeps on hurting me?

I made a promise never to settle
Why didnt I keep it?
Cause I hated the heartbreak
Crying and cheating, the fooling around

[Chorus x2]

No I cant be with you
Cause I'm scared felt like I was falling when you left me
I cant keep going through life
Unaware of what I missed
And the person I could be
Love's good when its right
And when it's left in your memory
All the times I let you down
I guess love will be nice for someone elses life

[Chorus]

Im not going through the motions
Waiting and hoping you call me
You might have had me open
But I must be going because
I know Im usually hanging on
I used to hate to see you gone
Oh different, feel the distance
Im not missing
Im not missing you

sorry guys..i already change da settings on my comment column. so now you can leave ur comment like always...

this day is da worst??? no ...not yet...there will be worst than this day..trust me.

I think he left me…already. It’s not final yet but..(sighhh…(-_-;)). I just dunno wat to do. Even its not dat I never felt it, but I really dun want to go through it all over again.. its HURT!!! Why he’s doin this to me??